elainegrey

On the dreamwidth dysfunctional modesty/impostor syndrome thread [i began with firecat's post and have not gone deep]:
( rambling noodling that takes me into sorrow about grad school experiences, but mainly just rambles. )

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One way Dreamwidth seems different from LJ is the social theory memes. Perhaps it's just a shift in my reading, but i've found less writing that makes me feel like someone's sharing their day to day life and personal journey, and more writing that feels like discussion group sharing. This seems to matter to me because i worry about the cost of participation: investing the time to be a voice in conversations to be heard. I'm pretty sure i don't have the time to participate at the level that one becomes noticed as a regular, so i lurk.

And when I hear that a primary solution to the problem of people underestimating women is to retrain women to behave differently in public, it kind of bothers me.

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Another thread from this morning's reading is with respect to the general meme of people hosting threads (or creating communities) so other people can put their name in them and then other people leave notes saying nice things. I rarely put my name out there, for the two fold reason of fear (how will i feel if no one responds, how i will feel if someone responds "too much" on the "Valentine" themed posts) and a certain sense that if i wanted to be more engaged and involved with people, people would welcome it.

However, i am aware how difficult it is to gauge connection in the absence of comments, and i'm aware my writing style doesn't invite comments. (I'm not sure why that is, but i'm aware of it.) I'm not going to cross post this to LJ, in order to ask this: could you leave a comment if you read this journal regularly/semiregularly? Those of who who comment regularly, even if in odd time sequence, already let me now you are reading.

Thanks.